To continue with where I left off the other night, it is sociological changes
in the American landscape that have been responsible for a good number of
American men seeking wives from Asia. First off, gainful employment in
some public capacity or managing some private business has given many
a woman empowerment, liberty and independence. Gone are the days
when marriage is the only life insurance for her. And gone are the days when almost
all Americans listened to Bible-thumping preachers exhorting the women to be
ever nice and cooperative with their men. All this and Women's Lib, more
than anything else, have masculinized not a few women, thereby reducing
their overall appeal. Worse, some men are even in awe of them! And, more
than ever before, there are now more Asian women in America. I believe it is
erroneous to believe that the ever changing American culture, ever since the
end of WWII, has not been responsible in any way for many American men
seeking Asian wives here and elsewhere.
The masculinization of the American woman began, in part, I believe, with America's rampaging
trade deficits and burgeoning debt loads which has continued to fuel inflation despite government claims to the contrary. In turn, this has forced
many women into the workforce to help with meeting their families' financial obligations.
By the way, Reagan once bemoaned the fact that so many American women were working thereby
causing an apparent shortage of jobs. Women joining the workforce has no doubt spawned some
other sociological problems. But that is a topic for another day.
I have noticed that many a highly educated or professional woman has had
a hard time landing a suitable mate. By "a suitable mate" I mean a man
whose education, qualifications, interests and status are commensurate
with hers. Result: many women were obliged to marry men well below their
station, while others, in desperation, resort to having children by means of artificial insemination,
or simply remain single with a sigh of resignation. Or ever keep hoping and yearning patiently for her Prince Charming to show up some sweet day.
(BTW, this situation is not just peculiar to America. Even in Malaysia, which is just a stone's
throw away from the scene of the recent Tsunami, the person at the top in many a government
department or office is, more often than not, a female Malay university graduate and her husband
is very often the uneducated and the lowliest of peons in the same department! And, in neighbouring
Singapore, men tend to shun university-educated women like the plague! --- so much so that their government is very concerned regarding the ramifications arising from this.)
Needless to say, some American men seek women in Asia because they were simply disenchanted
or traumatized by some local women or they simply lack the necessary social skills, while other
men have some stigma of a criminal past to contend with and all that it implies. However, they
apparently believe they will likely to be successful with someone not of their own kind. This is not unlike what many women believe: a change of scenery, place and pace and clime might engender matrimonial prospects and happiness.
Oh, and by the way, many American men have found from experience that Asian women are less inhibited, by far, about sex unlike many American women who have been imbued with the idea that sex is dirty and unavoidable only for procreation's sake. |
