Mike, I didn't mean to imply that I thought your marriage was MOSTLY conflicting, and I'm sorry if I misrepresented it somehow. I do sense from your posts that there is some conflict, however.
What you seem to be communicating is maybe some mutual lack of understanding of how to talk to each other, and how to be together and enjoy it, that you and your wife have. In other words, what I hear you saying is that you are exasperated by her a lot, and bored by (incessant?) chatter, and that you feel she is saying the same thing over and over, or that you go away and come back and it's like you never left. Certainly I would quickly say that being in love with your wife/husband and being able to get along with them are two totally different things, because I think men and women can be so different in the way they talk, what is important to them, and how they perceive situations that communication is frustrating.
I think self-help books are sometimes of pretty limited use, but here is one that might help you understand what different perspectives the two of you are coming from, sort of a primer on the big ways men and women are different. I'm sure it's available at your library:
amazon.com
Hey, congratulations on saving a tiny, sweet fluffy animal's life, and everything else that signifies!
Christine |
