Kevin, it sounds like you are basically a courteous and gentlemanly person, and the fact that you are asking questions and trying to figure out what happened would support that as well.
Women are very complicated!! She could have been in a really bad mood that night, or have decided, as someone else suggested, that she wanted to end the relationship, be more conservative than you are in how fast she wants to get to know you in a physical sense even though she basically likes you and is attracted, have religious issues that affect her romantic life, or perhaps have had a bad experience with another man that has colored her responses.
Very close dancing can be extremely threatening to women because the woman involved can feel pretty obviously whether her partner is physically aroused. This is very intimate for a woman, and she would have to be very comfortable with the guy, and really into having a physical relationship with him, to enjoy it. I would agree with what Alexa, I think, said in the sense of always following the cue of your partner in these situations.
More generally, and in the same vein, a woman will let a man know when she wants more, or more intense, physical affection. I think a really wise course on dates is to let the woman lead. She will slip her hand in yours, or encourage closer dancing, or wait appealingly for a kiss on the lips when she feels comfortable and is ready to do so. Certainly Amy didn't communicate verbally what was really going on here, and that is disappointing, but if you can learn to read a woman's body language well, at least you won't have anymore unhappy occurrences like this date.
There's nothing more exciting to me than being with a man who is obviously physically attracted to me, and lets me know that with the way he looks at me, but lets me know subtly that it is up to me to determine where the physical relationship goes, and how fast. It shows a lot of consideration and respect for me, and real caring, and these are the qualities I think most women are looking for in a man.
Best wishes, and write whenever you'd like to!!
Christine |
