It is extremely shocking that you looked at, with your 5 or 6 year old children, detailed pictures of adults making love. I hope it was just said to shock. It also, I must say, doesn't explain in any way how you ever had the opportunity to be "immensely pleased" when your teenaged sons all learned that giving sexual pleasure was essential to enjoying sex themselves.
And how hard is that to learn, for a civilized, educated person? Why would a Dad need to tell them that? This is not the 19th century.
Other things about that account were disturbing to me, too, but my guess is that you wrote the account to disturb, and I suppose it would be silly of me to take it all literally and pursue those things.
But one example is that I can't imagine needing to instruct a son never to hit a woman. I mean, why would this be necessary? To me, it would be like instructing him never to skin a cat or mug the neighbors. And to tell him to bring a girl home with her explicit agreement is odd to me too, as though you considered that without that instruction there were some possibility he might bring home a girl home without her knowledge or against her will. And the "had to" please the woman first part is strange to me, too.
Nihil, do you now feel that maybe you were involved to an unnecessary degree in the minute detail of your sons' sexual existences?
This is a serious question, nihil. You must know that that post was disturbing, and therefore have expected reactions of this sort.
Assuming you mean your post literally, I'm wondering whether they have ever said to you, as adults, anything about your approach to sex when they were boys.
EDIT: I see that Cobe raised many of the same issues.... |
