Maybe I just have a glitch in my psyche, but I believe that parents should stay out of the sex lives of their offspring. I think that telling them anything they ask, as straightforwardly as possible, is good. When they want to know, they'll ask. And they'll ask what they want to know. As I recall, we had these conversations when they were around 8 or 10 or so. They don't really want to be told about orgasms and pleasure and such, they are very modest, and such talk embarrasses them.
They did have a few questions about what transpired between President Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, and thought the President was "really gross." They don't approve of adultery.
I do have anatomy books, and whenever they have asked about any part of the body, which has never been a sexual part, I've referred them to the anatomy book, and we've looked together, and I've explained anatomy and physiology. If they want to know what female parts look like, the books are on the shelf, they don't need me to tell them, I am sure.
I've never told them masturbation is bad, or good, I haven't mentioned it. I've told them sex is private. I've told them they should never touch their private parts in public places.
I think there is plenty of sex in books these days, that's where I learned about such things, Ian Fleming and Robert Heinlein. |
