One always feels guilty about every suicide by someone you know and care about, and angry, too. With respect to every suicide I knew, when I examined my dealings with him/her, I was/am convinced that I could have done better by him/her. I don't mean that he/she wouldn't have done it anyway, but I wish I had been a better person, kinder, more loving, more conscientious, less selfish, less cruel.
A former client of mine, one I had not seen in years, committed suicide a few weeks ago, and her ex-husband (I handled her divorce) called up and informed me of the fact, and wanted to know if I had prepared a will for her. I got her file, and saw that we had discussed it, but never done it, and she had moved away. He was angry, because she had promised him that she would give her house (the former marital residence) to him, and now it was going to her mother. I hope she did not turn to him for comfort when she became distraught.
I would suggest that depressed people choose wisely the people to whom they turn for comfort and advice. Most of us are not up for it, and some may have hidden agendas. |
