Dear Dino,
Please make room for me on your soap box. Not only are girls not as physiologically ready for sex from the "desire" aspect, but a pregnancy in a 13 or 14 year old can be very hazardous for both baby's and mother's health,and when children are involved, and doggone it, we are talking children, there are going to be plenty of "accidents".
Bob's sort of Blue Lagoon fantasy sounds almost reasonable at first glance, but it is fraught with pitfalls. What exactly is psychological readiness for sex??? And how in heaven's name would you measure it? Teenagers are MINORS for a reason; they lack the perspective and experience to make responsible decisions about almost everything on a consistent basis. They often talk a great game, but that's all it is; their emotions are as unpredictable and volatile as a manic-depressive's. Because you teach a child the facts of the sex act you have not prepared him for the emotional rollercoaster that can ensue, you have not given him the ability to make sound, rational decisions in this any more than in other areas.
You also mentioned something which I hadn't noticed--- the two proponents of "sex for one and all at any age" are male, which is interesting. LIke you, I believe young girls are not nearly as eager and ready for this experience as young boys. (Perhaps Bob's vision is just one of the results of his repressed adolescence.) I don't believe, from my work experience with teens (admittedly these were often teens with problems from troubled homes- but, hey! that's reality!) or my own children, who are bright, wonderful, but were nowhere near ready for sex at 13.
penni , Neanderthal Woman |
