Nihil,
You write that "Because most boys are so badly educated and misled by their own sensations, they are often (usually?) insensitive and impatient with the girl's needs and wishes"
Do you really think it's education? I would argue that most teenagers are this way, not just about sex, but about everything! The stage they are in is extremely narcissistic- is supposed to be!-And this is one reason I don't believe that all the education in the world would make very young teens ready emotionally for sex. It's a slow process to learn how to move beyond and care about someone else before yourself. Not that we shouldn't have plenty of information and education and all the rest going on from an early age, but I have a hard time beliving that serious damage will be done to my boys because they are slowly learning about caring and loving and giving without the complications of a sexual relationship.
When I was a teenager, I did volunteer work with an autistic child. He was about ten and he could walk just fine, but he had never crawled, and because he had skipped that developmental step, he had never learned to speak. We did "patterning" with him several times a day- putting him on a table and moving his arms and legs in a crawling pattern- in the hopes it would trigger the mechanism that would help him learn language.
It's just my gut reaction to this sex at 13 theory that we would be skipping some important stages in emotional development and throwing children into situations for which they are just not ready.
Reality? The reality is that the world we live in is not a "natural" world, and within the context of THIS world, the Blue Lagoon doesn't work. Our job is to help our children achieve healthy sex lives, when they are ready,and protect them during the process. |
