My wife's girlfriend of over 20 years did not invite us to her daughter's wedding. My wife has not spoken to her for THREE years because of that one incident.
Do any of you women out there think she is doing the right thing?
If she has occasion to see the ex-girlfriend, and goes out of her way not to speak to her, she is NOT doing the right thing. That is to say, she is poisoning herself with negative emotions.
If she would not normally see the girlfriend, unless she sought her out, why should she speak with her? Might be the "right thing," if your wife knows for sure that the girlfriend deliberately excluded her, because that really would seem to show she wasn't really a friend.
But here again, is she not speaking because she is now indifferent to her former friend, or because she is still mad at her? If the latter, she is again hanging on to negative emotions. Not good.
And finally: did she ever ask for/get an explanation as to why she was not invited? Was it a small wedding, just for family? Were other friends invited, and only your wife ostentatiously excluded? Or could the daughter/son have said: "Don't invite that awful woman! I can't stand her!"
You see, you have set a very complicated case before us...<g>
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