Thank you for your insight, which I always find valuable.
I have been batting around an idea, myself, which I will try to express for the first time. I started posting on Feelies as an offshoot to DAR, and I posted recently how I got onto DAR, basically Penni posted something funny to me and I bookmarked her, and read her posts, and started from that. I am, as you point out, a newbie here.
From time to time newer people wander by here, and it usually is the case that Feelies made the hot list, and these people seem to have wandered over because of that. And as some have pointed out, even though Feelies seems (to me, at least) to be a place where people argue, more than anything else, it claims to be a place where one can talk about one's feelings without fear of being flamed.
So what I wonder is, do these guys come over here because they really long, in their heart of hearts, to talk about their feelings, only they don't know how? That might explain a lot, that what's going on here is that a lot of conflicted middle-American type males are secretly longing to get in touch with their feelings, but unable to do so. The only way they know how to express themselves emotionally is to agree with people they know are safe, and criticize all others.
Which can't be satisfying, which can't be what they want, because it's what they've always done. But it's safe, and safety is good. |
