Good morning, Michael!
Are you reintegrated into family life? How happy they must be to have you back-as are we.
Most of the posts I assume you're alluding to were a frustrated resonse to a poster named Ignacio who appeared here and proved to be somewhat of a problem. It was a bizarre situation and ruined the thread, in my opinion. Alexa and I moved headquarters to XXXXX where we go to talk kids and drink champagne and you are cordially invited. There is a dress code. It's amazing how one person can come in and affect a group so negatively. It destroyed our normal flow. Why don't you just skip the past and start anew? That's what I plan to do, if the rumors are true that our problems are over. I've been staying away from here a lot of the time.
And CGB is taking a long sabbatical and you are not at all responsible!
The APA membership votes on a contract in a few weeks and hopefully this will be behind us for a while. It was a tough time and has left some bad feelings, inevitable in this type of thing, I guess. Thanks for remembering!
I've heard that biting back is frequently used as a means of stopping what can become-and I wonder why--a pretty bad habit. Although I suppose it's no different than spanking a child for hitting, which has always seemed an illogical response to me. Parenting is so fraught with peril! We had a little friend who bit-Ammo would come home from playing at his house with little round bite circles on his arms. One day, I corrected the boy and that night his mother called me and lit into me bigtime for it-said it was her job and not my business. And besides, my other child left pinch bruises all over her son. I said,"why didn't you tell me?" She said, "Because it's not my place and it would have been rude," (Huh? Her child is being assaulted and she's worried about manners?) We didn't speak for two years. The funny part of the story is that I had defended CW vociferously, as to my knowledge he'd never pinched anyone, and the very next day our dearest friends came to visit and he put a hell of a bruise on their little girl's arm. I've read that making over the victim and ignoring the biter is good, but if this is occuring at preschool, it's out of your hands. I can't believe that the school hasn't had to deal with this a lot--it's such a common problem. Is your daughter verbal enough to talk about it? Maybe now that you're home, it will help.
My boys beat each other up all the time. Sometimes they beat their father up. I beat them all up. I always win, because if they touch me, I start screaming. |
