Let's Talk About Our Feelings!!! Message Board

STOCKTALK

We've detected that you're using an ad content blocking browser plug-in or feature. Ads provide a critical source of revenue to the continued operation of Silicon Investor. We ask that you disable ad blocking while on Silicon Investor in the best interests of our community. If you are not using an ad blocker but are still receiving this message, make sure your browser's tracking protection is set to the 'standard' level.

Pastimes : Let's Talk About Our Feelings!!!

Public Reply Prvt Reply Mark as Last Read File

Previous 10 Next 10 Previous Next

To: Lizzie Tudor who wrote (66153)	12/12/1999 3:00:00 AM
From: epicure	Read Replies (3) of 108807

Teenage girls and self esteem have EVERYTHING to do with our cultural emphasis of youth and perfect beauty (especially for women) and very little to do with stay at home mothers. Except for the fact that I would wager you a good chunk of change the children of mothers who CHOOSE to stay home with their kids are better off than those who don't. My children know I could pull in a fairly large salary- but I choose to be home, for THEM- because they are the most important work of my and their father's life. Any other work we do, is aimed at producing a better life for them (and for my husband and myself as well- we don't want to starve or anything). I thought, when I was working so hard in college (top of my class in everything- an academic superstar) that I would leave the child rearing up to a nanny. I thought the English system (well - the upper class system) made so much sense- why should MY productivity stop just because I had children. But when I had my first child, I realized I never wanted to leave her. I know that if I do my job right she (and my other children) will grow up to be strong enough to leave me, but I will never leave her. Children are so much bigger and better and more important than you think they will be- and you get out of the experience of being a parent what you put into it. If you put in a few hours a day in between day care and bed time- I think that's sad. It's just my opinion- based on nursing all my children. And being able to stay up with them all night if they were sick. Holding a sick kid all day long on my lap if they were miserable. Taking them to school every morning and picking them up every afternoon. Driving for every fieldtrip, being available for classroom parties and playgroups. I know there is no one in the world who could do what I do. No one could love my children more than I do. I don't have any self esteem problems. And you know- all those talk show hosts- when they talk about how important women at home are? Maybe it is becuase women at home ARE important- and it's ok to say so. Rather than "reassuring" women- maybe it is just a case of giving women who have chosen a different career their due. Because we do deserve an enormous amount of respect. We carry the slack for all the working parents who don't have time to be "there" for their kids- where ever "there" is. I have a van that seats 8- and when I drive on fieldtrips I'm driving 6 other kids of parents who didn't show up to drive. And when I organize all the parties for my daughter's class- I have to phone all the parents and coordinate them, and from the working parents I hear "just assign me something I can pick up at the store" - well that is fine, but we are doing crafts for each holiday, and games- and it is the parents who are HOME that show up to help with that. And it is the stay at home moms that run the PTA, and the girlscout troops and the boy scout troops and ALL the other things that add so much to the lives of our kids. I don't think stay at home moms get anywhere near the recognition they deserve- every working mom ought to say a little prayer every day for the few stay at home moms that are left to run everything.

Report TOU Violation

Share This Post

Public Reply Prvt Reply Mark as Last Read File

Previous 10 Next 10 Previous Next