<<The reason I asked whether or not you an I are going to have a problem with regard to
Edwarda is because I sense some underlying tention from some posters against her
which seems to me to be of a more personal nature than being based on issues of a
discussion nature. It has been my long standing opinion that you are above such
behavior. I hope I will continue to be right in that regard.>>
I base my opinions of other posters on the way they act, Mike, much more so than on whether I share their deeply held opinions. I am pretty sure you must already know this, because certainly you and I do not agree on much of anything but continue to have an interesting dialogue. I must say that I think it further enflames thread disagreements when a whole bunch of people get together and gang up on others, and I see this happening here. I don't have a lot of respect for people who do that, and if their posts at the same time are illogical, vacuous, or seem to have no other intent than pure annoyance, it does get on my nerves. I do not think anyone is above totally losing it if they are continually provoked, either.
Incidentally, I was not saying that children are confused about why they are being spanked. Most often they know what they did that was wrong. I believe they are EXTREMELY confused the first time the the beloved parent hurts them. After that I think they learn to mix love and pain, and lose trust. I just don't think this is a good thing to have happen from a child development perspective. I have never even gotten close to hitting my child. I child proofed my house, made very clear that throwing a tantrum would have no good result (she tried this twice at tow and then learned), and used time outs and taking away privileges, as well as suffering the natural consequences of her bad behavior, and an occasional essay writing activity, and these all worked very effectively. These are all much less strenuous than the physical activity necessary to catch and hit someone who may run very, very fast. |
