I think some men are philanderers, and some aren't. The ones that are don't usually leave their wives just because they have an affair. Statistically, it's very uncommon for a man to marry a woman with whom he had an adulterous affair. On the other hand, if a man or a woman is thinking of getting a divorce, it's not at all uncommon for them to have affairs to "try their wings." So I suspect that what you are seeing are marriages that are on the rocks, but the man, who is probably financially well-off given your social circles, has a large coterie of women who are anxious to become the trophy wife, secretaries, junior associates, nurses, dental assistants, saleswomen, career women but not competitors. They aren't really 21, are they? They're 25 to 27, no kids, no wrinkles, and they lie through their teeth to make the man feel like he's the king of the world, like Marla Maples and Donald Trump, or Teddy Kennedy and Vickie whats-her-name.
Remember, my own father has been married three times, I've seen the phenomenon "up close and personal." Both my mother and my stepmother were glad when the divorce was over, and my father's third wife was thinking about divorce when she got cancer. Guys like that are just plain selfish, and they aren't good husbands. |
