I guess people who don't have children may not realize how physical the relationships can be, without sexuality. My own relationship with my children is very affectionate, which is sensually gratifying - "kisses, pets and hugs." It has been from the very beginning, when I fell in love with the smell of the tops of their heads, and the soft velvety texture of their skin. To me, they are the most beautiful children in the world, and I love to look at them. Of course, the older they got, the less physical the relationship became. I don't smell their heads anymore, but I do occasionally pat them on the cheek (face) to show affection, and I do get a hug and a kiss a few times a day, in the morning, at bedtime, when they leave for school or I leave for work, coming home, when someone is sad, and so on. I also have very sensual relationships with my cats, and while my pillows are not animate, I am very physically attached to my favorite pillow, the Comfy Pillow. I am one of those people who literally stop to smell roses, and other flowers, and to pet other people's dogs.
I also kiss my mother, from time to time, and hug and kiss my sister and brother, and father. I don't hug my mother because she is rather frail, but I do pat her on the back.
I don't know if that's unusual in some parts of the world, but in Louisiana it's not unusual at all for people to be affectionate and demonstrative. People who confuse affection and taking sensual pleasure in giving and getting affection with sexuality seem to me to be confused about sexuality. |
