I am a listener here. And probably posted last time couple a monthes ago here or on some thread, that I had interest in. But I always follow this thread, specially what Voltair writes. A lot of times things he writes I do not understand , I guess this is because I do not have a background in this country's culture and my language is poor when it comes to cultural background. So things specially related to the past, songs baseball, etc,etc, a lot of time do not make sence to me. But, I strongly beleive in things like intuition.
I do understand what a hypocrite is. My gut feeling tells me Vpltair is not a hypocrite. I did not follow what was said by Rose and details, etc,etc... So, I can not judge who is right and who is wrong. Maybe he is maybe she is. But again as I say I trust my intuition. And having read Voltair's messages I know he is a good man. Does not matter in details , any way as a said a lot of times I do not understand what he says, specially when he goes into phylosophy, some kind of songs, etc,etc.. But he is a good man. You can trust me. In these things I do not make mistakes. He can not harm people. At least not intentionally.
Now, most of you guys are Americans, and I can tell you, You got something going for you. Whatever it is. I do not know ,maybe constitution, maybe you are just mostly bunch of good and decent people. Also on the average much more intelligent than I saw in other places. But you have one very visible problem. You get divorced too fast. Look around. My daughter tells me that she hangs around with 9 friends. They go together to movies, disco, etc,etc, 7 of them live in broken homes. Mother is San Diego, father in New Jersey, etc,etc.....
Maybe my example with divorce is not real correct, but I think it has to do with this case also. Do not get divorced. Arguments is O.K. You have to let it out. Otherwise it will burst. But on the way out do not call names. It never helps. And then evrything is broken. It is like after the bombardment. Everything is broken. A house, children, furniture, you. Bunch of scavengers loot the remains in the court. The stupid thing is that only people that really can fix the problem are not the ones that are fixing it. Instaed of that a bunch of people that have no love for you for your children and you wife have the responsibility to fix the proble, Even if they would want it they can not. You can not put your words back.
In my native language (Russian) they say : "The word is like a bird. Once you let it fly out, you can not put it back in". And usually you do regret afterwards.
I can tell what sometimes help. Before you sort things out, just keep the mouth shut. Do not open it. At that point of time you think it is a mouth. It is not . It is a instead an opening that just lets the accumulated gases in your stomack out. This is natural reaction of you body, to let things that exort a pressure on inside of your stomack to get out. So, let it out but some other way, not with words. Everybody has their own sytem to handle that. Most of the times it is right. Could be even alcogol. Why not. Better than go to a shrink. Much cheaper. Just think about it as about some kind of medicine. |
