I appreciate your civility, too, Doug.
I want to point out that you had probably been (since so many fertilized eggs just depart with the menstrual flow) a "father" a number of times before the time that resulted in the positive pregnancy test occurred, and I suspect you don't, now, feel you have suffered the tragic loss of the deaths of several of your children.
I felt as you did, as soon as I knew I was pregnant, and so did my husband. We wanted a baby, though that first pregnancy hadn't been planned, and cost me a college education and changed the course of my life in some ways I regret. But when I had a miscarriage between my two children, although I was very sad (very), I knew I was not a mother whose child had died. In fact, such a notion is, to me, an unconscionable, cheap, self-dramatizing trivialization of the worst thing that can happen to a human being -- the loss of their child.
I was struck by this:
<< If a woman were to find out she were
pregnant and on the same day her boyfriend or hubby or whatever, were to slip some of this RU-486 into her system
via food or drink and the baby was lost as a result, I would consider that murder.>>
I would consider it a stunning, shocking assault, an invasion of that woman's body, and a vicious theft of her right to decide whether to gestate the embryo in her (not his, her) abdomen until it was a human being, their child. |
