Thanks, too. And it is timely. I laughed at the fairy wand and tiara the guy got for Christmas.
I noted this part, that is something our military has done and I find really wierd and wasteful:
"Targeting and uncovering homosexuality was a large part of what the military did," said Edmund Hall...
Whenever I have come out at work it has not been a problem. But made things better. I don't tend to discuss my personal life at work, or much of anywhere. That is partly from habit developed as a gay person, and partly just my manner. And I usually don't care to hear too much about my co-workers private lifes, though I've tended to have bosses that liked using me as relationship counselor. The times I've come out have been because it seemed the thing to do under certain circumstances. Granted, those places were not the military, but it showed me what people are capable of when presented with someone they respect and sometimes like being open with them around what can a difficult issue. And I've had people say nothing, or later thank me, saying that it changed. I've never had anyway say they were mad, or had anyone, at work, cause a problem. Outside of work, I have had problems. Perhaps in an enviroment where people count on each other, people are more likely to look at what you contribute and make an effort from their end to look past feelings that might make them stay away from you in private. And, in the end, feelings towards gays change, because they have dealt with a co-worker and found you're just kinda allright.
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