Yes, in life I'm pretty tolerant of everything except meanness and rudeness. "Nice" means a lot to me and I try not to associate with people I think aren't "nice." I have one friend who isn't nice. I put up with it (I say, "You're in bitch mode now," and she denies it but stops it) because we've been friends for a long time and life kind of tests her more than anyone deserves to be tested. I used to have more of them, unnice but interesting in some way, friends, but at a certain point I thought, well, if they can't be nice to, for example, a harried waiter, or their spouse, or their children, fukum, I'm not hanging out with them. I once told a male friend that he was habitually rude to people, giving numerous examples, and he totally freaked, it was an amazing social scene; I mean freaked; it was clearly against his (leftist) ideology to be horribly rude to people and he had evidently never had it pointed out to him before; and... he's been extreeeemly nice, at least in front of me, for several years now, lol.
Also, and incidentally, speaking of how tolerant I am, I never, ever try to force anyone to have an abortion however advisable I might think it would be for them to do so, and would vote against any law that tried to do such a thing. I also support not subjecting the children of theists to freethought philosophical readings in public settings, schools and so on. It wouldn't be nice, imo. |
