This was sent home with our kids today, here in Canada:
Tragic Incidents in United States Letter to
Thames Valley Parents
September 11, 2001
Dear Parents,
The reports of suspected terrorism attacks in the United States today are dominating news coverage and discussion. It's natural for people to talk about these incidents and feel upset-and even horrified.
At school today, many of the children were talking about the incidents. We will be making an announcement to all students and talking with them in the days to come. You can also expect that your child will talk to you about this at home. Here are some suggestions from our Tragic Events Response Team to assist you in dealing with this issue at home with your child.
* Explain what has happened in simple terms. Keep it short.
* Be willing to discuss your child's fears and concerns.
* Let your child talk about her fears and concerns. Don't expect your child to "get over it" immediately-there may be delayed reactions.
* Keep your routines as normal as possible-stick to usual dinner time and bedtime.
* Share your own feelings, but in a reassuring way. For example, "I feel really upset too, but it's important for you to know that you're safe here at home and school."
* Your child will pick up on your anxiety, so think carefully about any discussions you have in front of your child about the incident.
* Emphasize that this incident is extremely rare, and that it happened far away.
* Use straightforward language, even though your child is young. Don't shy away from using the word "death."
* Don't force your child to talk if he doesn't feel like talking.
* Watch for signs that your child needs to talk-for example, she becomes withdrawn or anxious, becomes clingy, experiences sleep disturbance, expresses fear about ordinary events like going to school or leaving parents.
* Reassure your child, spend extra time with him.
* Limit your child's exposure to television, especially news coverage.
* Take into account your child's previous experiences-for example, has there been a death in the family recently?
* Ask for help. Counsellors, psychologists and members of the Tragic Events Response Team are available to the school-speak with your teacher or principal if you wish to speak with someone.
We'll be giving advice to schools and to parents about how to handle this. We will continue to send information to you in the days to come.
Principal |
