Karen, as to teenage boys being initiated into sex by older women, I am sure that you would draw no distinction as to the initiation being performed by older men. There are others who share your struggle to view such initiations as sexual abuse:
Another article ("Boy-Lovers and their Influence on Boys," by Edward
Brongersma) complains about the "bias" which labels man-boy sex as "abuse,
molestation, assault, " etc. Dr. Brongersma complains that researchers are
unable to remain objective about pedophilia, saying "...many people...exhibit
such violently emotional hostility toward boy-lovers because they fear their
own...pedophile impulses." (p. l53).
Dr. Brongersma goes on to cite cases in which social workers achieved
"miracles with apparently incorrigible young delinquents--not by preaching to
them but by sleeping with them." He describes how these sexual relationships
"did far more good than years in reformatories." (p. l6l).
He advises that the loving pedophile can offer a "companionship, security and
protection" which neither peers nor parents can provide (p. l62) and goes on to
say that parents should look upon the pedophile who loves their son "not as a
rival or competitor, not as a thief of their property, but as a partner in the boy's
upbringing, someone to be welcomed into their home..."
Another writer, David Thorstad, argues for "freedom of sexual expression for
young people and children" (p. 255) and quotes a lesbian who talks of the "rich
texture" of her experiences as a molested child.
Writer Gerald Jones says that "same-sex intergenerational intimacy may be
developmentally functional" (p. 279) and says, "Some studies have found
benign or even beneficial results in boys who were at the time involved with
men" (p. 280). Dr. Jones speaks approvingly of recent studies which discuss
pedophilia in "value-neutral terms." (p. 280)
The articles described are from the Journal of Homosexuality, 1990, on the theme of "Male Intergenerational Intimacy"
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