I will stop posting immediately.
Here is a PM I sent you a few minutes ago. I post it because it shows what you rejected for this blackmail choice. I omitted only the first line of it (because it was a quote of a line of yours).
Goodbye all. Have fun.
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Sunday, March 10, 2002 11:39 PM ET
To: Christopher Hodgkin (who wrote)
From: E
Christopher, you know that's not true. It's about Poet much more than about me. I just fight in her behalf because she's spooked by you at this point, and she's my friend, and I'm not spooked. If you get SI to tell me not to post to or about you, I guess I won't have a choice since I'm not going to sue. But why shouldn't we work it out to both our satisfaction without getting SI involved?
Read this PM carefully, please, Christopher, and think about what I"m proposing.
(I would like to stop posting or reading about this subject for 30 days (at least.) It's a busy time for me, and repetition is boring in any case.)
How about your giving me a private undertaking that you won't post to or about Poet for that 30 days? I won't post that you've agreed to it, and I'll first finish this inane discussion with X and bia. I'll simply tell anyone who asks that you had asked me to have a toorabout "cooling off" arrangement with you for 30 days, and that I intend to give it a try. If anyone wants to know more, I'll say we talked about it and decided to keep the details of our agreement private.
That's put intentionally amorphously so I could return if you behaved in a way I feel sure you won't toward Poet (though less sure now that I know you posted on Poet's Corner while she was gone) -- and yet you don't have to make an agreement that at this point you feel you can't. It gets me off your case, which I think has gotten harder for you than you deserve, badly as I think you've behaved. The reason I say that is that I really think there is something you just don't "get." And that's exculpating. And it's different from "getting" it and being cruel on purpose. Also, I believe you said some of the things you shouldn't have in anger and resentment and undoubtedly regret saying them.
And in addition to getting me off your case, it gets me free to waste less time on the famous already-said-a-million-times.
I'm sure this isn't fun for you. I know it isn't for Poet.
So let's do what I bolded above. That way you and I get vacations and I feel privately comfortable that I haven't made an agreement that leaves my friend undefended and upset. (One of the things you don't "get" is just how upset she is, Christopher. Put aside whether you think she should be. She is.)
Okay?
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