Have Bill and I made "this place" and "inhospitable" one for you?
People have different ideas about what "hospitable" means. I have expressed my own notion of what that means on many occasions. I like to discuss issues with people of differing perspectives. That's why I'm here. Any behavior that compromises the thread's utility for that, I find inhospitable. I would put the periodic food fights in that category because they waste space, discourage the expression of perspectives, and impact the morale and colleagiality of the community. So, in that sense, anyone who engages in them makes this place less hospitable for me.
Typically, I deal with that by taking little vacations until things settle down. Occasionally I chide people for their behavior. This is a new thread still trying to gather its tone. My comments were made in that context.
You might want to read over some of X's responses to myself and Bill. Context is everything.
I did. Over the weekend, I carefully read the whole thing over so that I would be sure of what happened. And I went back and read some of the relevant doin's on Beanies.
BTW, X requested an apology from me last week. When I asked her to clarify exactly what it was I was apologizing for, I never received a reply.
Having reread the relevant posts, it became clear to me that X was dealing with things as she typically does and as she said she preferred, by using the ignore feature. I take vacations, she ignores, other people have their own coping devices. Are those devices "inhospitable?" Perhaps. I am, however, prepared to be tolerant of any nonviolent defensive measure that an individual chooses.
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