Existence 101: No behavior is without consequence. Each action we perform, no matter how apparently benign, yields a corresponding reaction. You seem to be inferring that those who participate in certain "unusual" sexual behaviors are immune (not "sullied") to the consequences of these behaviors. I disagree.
Certain sexual behaviors have psychological manifestations that are not healthy--they sully the minds (eg.,forming neuroses) and bodies (eg.,hepatitis, hemorrhoids . . .) of people. IMO, sexual degradation, for example, sullies people even if it one calls it "role playing". The notion that the psychological impact of a degrading experience doesn't leave the bedroom with the participants seems naive to me. The notion that the repetition of this kind of act over a span of years doesn't begin shape a person's character and relationships, denies a serious awareness of human psychology.
"Just look at Barbara, her nails are perfectly manicured, her Jag is always spotless, and she graduated from Vassar--what's so wrong with her husband putting a leather mask over her head, having her wear a dog collar, and watching her have sex with his boss? For heaven's sake, they're consenting adults! "
I wouldn't want to be a fly on the wall of the smallest room in either of their brains. And if "Barbara" were my sister . . . I, uh, would be . . .uh . . . unhappyish.
Actually, this is a very profound topic as it addresses the reverberation (not limited to sexual acts) of actions on the physical plane into the realm of our psychology. Consequences, consequences . . . sometimes they're subtle, but nothing is inconsequential. |
