I've given this some thought. Let me tell you my experience.
Soon after LWP started, I put a few posts on it that were not, shall we say, appreciated. I got a sharp PM from Poet. I shot back. I was banned.
A few weeks after that, I responded to one of her posts on Options Box. Her reply was "DON'T POST TO ME AGAIN! DON'T PM AGAIN! DON'T DISCUSS ME! LEAVE ME ALONE!" Recognize that?
Here's where the difference begins: I did that. I left her alone.
The Cold War lasted about a year. But I left her strictly alone during that time. I had no idea it would ever end. I actually didn't think it would.
On the other hand, she's left, I'm right, it's cats and dogs.
About 4-6 months ago I spat at some jerk; I don't remember who it was. I think they were along the lines of Evile Latrine, but not as bad. Poet apparently liked my post because I got a friendly complimentary PM from her. In my reply, I suggested we end the Cold War. She agreed.
Things still took some months to straighten out. For some months the relationship was stiff and awkward. It's only been in the last few months that it warmed. It takes time to build trust.
That's what it took me. Over a year.
Your mileage may vary.
But your problem really is with her, not me. Anything we negotiated at any point would go past her. And she gets an absolute veto. Period. If she objects, it doesn't happen.
If she told me to unban you from SMBR, it would happen within a minute of my seeing her message.
So if you think I'm the key, you're wrong. She is. And so far I'd say you're making an impression on her alright.
But the wrong one. |
