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Politics : Sharks in the Septic Tank
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To: epicure who wrote (48971)6/3/2002 12:55:32 PM
From: one_less  Read Replies (1) of 82486
 
...it is possible to accomplish steps 1-9 without feeling bad (imo)

Of course.

I was commenting, however, on E's position regarding "feeling bad." Children (most) cry when faced with consequences, when it becomes apparent that they have not acting along guidelines that will ultimately prove beneficial. Whatever path chosen as a guideline has now become incompatible with some beneficial outcome (example, parent approval). The child will adjust after crying. He/she may decide after crying that twisting susie's arm was not the most beneficial approach to obtaining the disired toy under the circumstances. And so, after giving the arm back, he/she may even feel compelled to apologize and adjust the approach to toy acquisition.

This is an adjustment process that is normal in human endeavors when one recognizes that the path one had chosen does not achieve beneficial results. Especially if the chosen path has some regrettable outcomes (Not for Mary Poppins and other such exceptions). Remorse, even grief and the grieving process also help with the adjustment process. Persons who are able to handle their own regrettable circumstances and continue on as a beneficially contributing member of society are considered well adjusted. Persons who don't deal with bad circumstances well are considered socially mal-adaptive.

The steps proposed, simply point out that to adjust one must have a critical self perception. One that labels attributions associated with self as beneficial or not. Beneficial as being "good," not as being "something else" ("bad" for people who are not against using the word).
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