| Yes, in a less formal setting, I would be much more careful about ensuring give and take, and I am often more amusing in social settings than I am on SI, and take more trouble to be charming and make a personal connection. That is partially simply due to the differences in venue, where give and take is more rapid, and there is less reason to finish a thought before "posting", or where the conversation is less focused. How much difference does the greater spontaneity make? Frankly, I think that the editing function that is present on SI occurs in real time conversation, but it happens as one qualifies what has been said as one goes along, rather than vetting the utterances before "posting". Since I think there is a greater degree of self- censorship in 3D, usually, I am not so sure that spontaneity equals greater sincerity. But also, in 3D, one has to get beyond the "common topics" and set pieces that people have in social settings, and really talk, for there to be any possible advantage. I have had friends who were practically nothing but schtick: honed anecdotes, bits of "standup" business, predictable exchanges about occupations and such, except for a small group of good friends, where they trusted and had run out of material. Whenever they met someone for the first time, I would have to hear their material for the billionth time<g>...... |
