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To: The Philosopher who wrote (63853)	10/25/2002 2:08:13 PM
From: one_less	Read Replies (2) of 82486

Did not. I gave three points that validate a sincere apology. I allowed several qualifiers. Having made a sincere apology does not obligate reconciliation. I also allowed that people can call things apologies that actually have some other function (your recent statements to poet for example). In addition I pointed out that people can choose to reconcile or to just live with a situation without having apologized. I don't recommend it because the "breach" then has a tendency to resurface from time to time. Usually, at bad times. The three points...I felt those were simply stated and fair but you seem to have a need to unfairly apply them and interpret my meanings for me in ridiculus ways. I can only surmise that this has to do with your current situation which appears to be void of hope (at the moment). An "oops" type statement would certainly be enough in 99% of the situations I witness. It is usually specific to the situation and the nature of the breach is understood. A little eye contact can indicate sincere remorse. A statement of "I'm not doin' that again" would help but again "oops" kind of says that too. Like wise with "honey I'm sorry," in most cases. I would not accept the "honey I'm sorry," apology if the same breach had occured in the past or if it had something to do with a loss of trust. Interpersonal relationships are complex so it is not possible to determine which breach requires more or less effort in the apology unless you are personally involved. However, to have any chance of putting the issue to rest they should always meet the three criteria. How an apology does that is of course somewhat unique to the situation.

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