You have completely misunderstood. Of course you think that controlling it is "strength", and, if rightly understood, it is, somewhat. That is, one should not lash out irrationally, but behave in a more considered way. So far, so good. And of course, one's emotional response is affected by a particular understanding of the matter (is it a joke, evidence of emotional turmoil, merely malicious?), as well it should be, supposing an accurate assessment of context. But certain emotions are appropriate to certain situations, and "not letting someone determine one's feelings" is hardly a sufficient basis for altering the basic response. It is, however, a formula for being dishonest with oneself about one's feelings, and handling them badly.
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