I knew about the PSTD and the deleterious effects of 911, and I never professed to have a close relationship to her, as you did. I must therefore conclude either a convenient lapse of memory, or an exaggeration of your relationship prior to the falling out. If the former, I simply do not believe that you "just forgot", as it was reiterated on this thread and others for some months in the aftermath of the attacks. If the latter, your main claim to sympathy for keeping after her, namely, that you were trying to repair the relationship, flies out the window. Whatever relationship there was was inflated in your mind.
If, as you claim now, you thought the emotional vulnerability issue was a ploy, then why help her cause by acting guilty so often? You should have been forthright, rather than behaving with such dodging that, as I said, even I was starting to believe the worst. Even if we say that you simply miscalculated, well, it still means that a lot of this mess is your responsibility.
I personally often found things like your "laving", on Feelies, disgusting, especially when directed at someone unwilling, as, for example, jbe, who practically had to beat you over the head to get you to knock it off. This creates a bad impression, and lends credibility to the idea that you have problems with women.
As for harassment, well, a gentleman knows when to quit.
It is simply true that JLA took this as one of E's hobby horses at the beginning, and was still cordial with you. Laz, I cannot recall specifically enough to say if he was more "in your corner" or neutral.
You really should step up, like a man, for having gotten this ball rolling..... |
