This post points out one of many essential differences between you and Jewel (and others).
Jewel (and others) basically call names and look backward, rehashing all the terrible things they see in the past, based on real or perceived grievances, without any concern for problem solving.
You analyze, figure out, state your findings dispassionately and clearly, and focus on moving forward, not on perpetual recriminations. Where moving forward requires recognition of past wrongs, you're not hesitant to say so, but your focus is foward looking, not backward looking.
One can see why you were a success as an administrator.
I think that
CH and X have in common that they are distant, analytical, outspoken, and
indifferent to some things that others value. That makes them less than endearing
to the schmaltzy crowd, and visa versa.
I'm not sure I know what you mean by distant, so am not sure whether to agree or not, but the others are, I think, spot on.
I'd like to see closure on this.
I would say "wouldn't we all?", but it seems pretty clear that some people here don't want closure.
I have become, in some ways, a great convenience to certain people. It's always nice to have a handy villain to dump on when you feel like dumping. So I suspect that there will never be closure because I am too valuable in the role they have chosen to impose on me, and I don't care enough about their villification to do yield to any demands just to get them off my back.
If everyone came to the table, as Neo suggested, genuinely interested in resolution, I don't think it would be that hard to accomplish. Neo probably could have done it; you certainly could.
But I don't see, frankly, much possiblility that some of the people here are the least bit interested in resolution. And that being the case, I see little chance that it can happen.
Is that too pessimistic? |
