if you hit your children, you simply teach them that violence is the way to instill correct behavior
Never?? Not even if they were bullying other children in the neighborhood and beating them to a pulp?? Or terrorizing you??
And if the kids in your neighborhood were terrorizing other neighbors, you'd never raise your hand in anger to oppose them, right??
Remember, you have no 911 to call, and no police to act as your proxy for enforcing civil order and stability..
Again.. you've shown yourself to be representative of a utopian mentality out of step with reality...
I met a gal yesterday who lives in a suburb of DC.. A recent law grad who is desperate to move of her neighborhood because she can't walk the streets in safety.. She is surrounded by crack dealers and gang members and has been living in fear of being raped (she's pretty cute)..
So she's looking for a better neighborhood to live in, because all the authorities have done is talk about the problem.. No one is willing to do anything about it to restore social order.. So she is forced to move out..
And that's the same problem some 3 million Iraqi people have faced. They are exiles from their own country because they opposed, or pissed off, Saddam Hussein.. 3 million dislocated people who can't go home because of him...
So when you think about "innocent people", be sure and remember them, ok??
And btw, one should never discipline their children while in a fit of anger. I'll always remember how a childhood friend of mine was disciplined when he disobeyed.. His father would send him to his room to think about what he had done for about 3-4 hours. At that time, his father would come in and spank him, and afterwards, tell him that "even though I hate what you did, I still love you"...
Vic told me those hours waiting for his dad to dole out the punishment were worse than the actual spanking.. And it gave his father time to cool off and not over-discipline his child..
And you know something?? Vic LOVED HIS FATHER.. Loved him beyond belief because he knew it hurt his father to be forced to have to discipline his child....
And I've NEVER forgotten that..
It absolutely tore him up when his dad passed away prematurely..
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