yes yes yes you keep telling us how much you are afraid of being seen as anti- anything that is cool to be.
I'm quite sure I never said anything like that. That is your conclusion, not something I said.
You, like solon, are way too worried that other people are being hateful behind every bush. Had you looked at the rationale instead of doing triple flips to over-look the reality of the situation
Well of course. Isn't that what we've been doing here for the last couple of weeks? I still haven't heard anything that would justify being hateful to gays. Nothing. At most their presence on this earth is an inconvenience.
He doesn't want to get around anything.
You misunderstood. I never said that there is anything wrong with the guy not wanting to touch women in that way. I can understand his form of respect for women. The "get around" meant how he could get around any accusation of discrimination. It was an attempt to be helpful, one of many that can't seem to get past that chip you have on your shoulder.
How tolerant, open minded, and compassionate of you.
Look, there are a number of obstacles in trying to integrate his values with his chosen profession given this culture at this time. You haven't addressed any of them. Pulling the covers over your head does not make them go away. I have offered practical suggestions. None of them is perfect because the conflict is inherent, but there is, I'm sure, a workable win-win in this. You and I could be working together to find it. But no, you expect the world to accommodate this guy fully, even to revere him for his high principles. If he's not prepared to address the conflict with an open mind, he's got a tough row to hoe. If he'd rather curse the darkness than light a candle, I guess that's his choice to make. There are limits to how much effort I'm prepared to expend in the face of his intransigence. |
