I have no idea what I did to her
Negligent skimming, perhaps. Not having "enough intelligence to weigh in on the topic," perhaps.
I was trying to wash my hands of this but I can't let Jewel's abuse of Rambi and your enabling of it stand without comment. I feel responsible for Jewel assaulting me by proxy. I had mentioned "even dear Rambi..." on the assumption that everyone knew her reputation and respected her. I know you do. As it turns out, I set her up and I'm very sorry for having triggered what ensued. Rambi is not my "pon." She does not have the teflon temperament that I do. I tried to discourage her intervention with an earlier comment something along the lines of "thanks, mom" but she apparently reacted to something that crossed the lines we have drawn, such that they are. She made that very clear, I thought, hence my comment about negligent skimming.
This is what Jewel said that triggered Rambi's intervention.
<<As karen has discribed the life she has created for her self, I have found her to be the single most sheltered, risk-averse adult that I have ever encountered.>>
This thread doesn't have much in the way of standards. Posters insult each other all the time. But we have discussed standards and I thought there was a consensus that insulting people's personal lives was out of bounds. Rambi's intervention couldn't have been more clear. She expressed it directly.
I don't think calling someone's life sheltered or risk averse is much of an insult. I don't know that either or those characterizations is insulting at all, merely descriptive. But Jewel's intent was to characterize my life as somehow pitiful and that does cross the line. I didn't react to it that way. I merely considered it part of his lob-back strategy. But Rambi was asserting a standard she had basis to assert. If she received any guff about that, it should have been on that point, not some wild barrage of abuse. Cocoa, my ass!
I expect you to do the honorable thing and take a moment from the end-zone dance you two are sharing back on Jewel's twenty yard line (this high-fiving that so offends him when I appear to him to be doing it) and acknowledge the reasonableness of her point. (While you are at it, you might want to consider if Rambi's reaction to your dance might not warrant a modicum of introspection on your part.) |
