sounds like this person went to a lot of bad meetings.. Perhaps if he changed meetings he would have found one that is on his level.. today their are meetings to meet everyone's situation.. The fact that he kept saying he was tired of telling his story makes me think he was at a beginners meeting and maybe stayed there.
I have seen various people come into the rooms who do not know how to live. How to get up in the morning and know how to dress.. They never grew up as they medicated themselves throughout life on drugs and booze... There are thousands of different reasons why some one becomes addictive. Their genes, emotional situation and heavy drinking or the first taste that drives you to a never cannot get enough. In the meantime your life around you collapses..
In the rooms, there are people who have experienced addition and know directly what is the right way to get stay clean and sober. These people go out of their way to help one get through a day at a time. then a week at a time and hopefully after a year of guidance when needed the person is on their way to recovery. Does it work all the time no, perhaps not most of the time. You have to realize a great deal of these folks coming in ran from responsibility and when sober this is their first test to address those things without substance of drugs or booze.. Many cannot make it and relapse. some keep coming back and make it , others may die a slow death.
some alcoholics quit cold turkey and make it.. perhaps these are strong will and independent people or someone who went through a temporary crisis. Others it may be what they are about to lose is more important than the drug and they quit. To others nothing is more important than the drug or booze. They usually end up in AA from a court appearance and potential jail, work and notice of termination, family divorce, but they may not be ready to live without substances... People who are willing to spend the time to help those in need I respect very much. They do a wonderful service and to them it keeps them sober by getting involved in helping others so they do not spend time on themselves.
I believe in Philly area there are at least 100 various meetings any day.. It is a shame this person couldn't find one that fit his objectives. I doubt he tried.
As to going to meetings , it depends on the person imo. Stronger more successful in life , marriage, job, social functions perhaps less meetings or no meetings.Others who have been in a fog for twenty years,when they wake up they still have a teenager mind since they blew off every piece of responsibility or stress through alcohol or drugs, need guidance on how to live a day at a time or they will relapse. Many i found were introverts, shy people in school or work and maybe little to no social contacts. The aa meetings are their first experience of coming out their shell. It is truly remarkable.
Like any organization you have people in these rooms for other issues, they may like to talk , they may be looking for companionship, they may be looking for sex. I have met some nuts in these rooms as there a lot of sick people there.g |
