...And you dare, you sadist, to say the words below to a mother who speaks of the sense of loss and confusion her Asian daughter feels as she grows up and becomes aware that in her Connecticut suburb she is in physical ways ‘different’ from her white family--and that somewhere in the world she must have a biological family, a mother, perhaps brothers and sisters, whom she will never know?
From Pilch to Poet: You are the racist. You truly are. That is exactly why your daughter has suffered. You were unwilling to crawl into her space and learn about jab chae as a fresh gift to you both. And she always felt the sting, the crushing sting, of being separated from everyone, you in particular. She still feels it.
You have an ugly mind, Mr. Pilch.. Those words were designed solely to cause a mother pain over her daughter’s teen aged sadness--to persuade her those tears were her fault. You are truly a monster! And and I sincerely hope that you do not really have the eight children, including the black son (yassah boss, yassah, Marse Pilch, an yo say he am he am de top male chile’?!), whom you claim.
This is what Poet, who actually is an adoptive parent, did, for her daughter. She has written about this on SI, btw:
When her daughter was ready, her parents worked with her through the orphanage to locate her biological family in Korea. The search was successful and the two families established contact. Poet then sent her daughter to Korea, a visit which was a joyful and deep and revelatory experience, for her. Poet’s daughter now knows, to her benefit, both her adoptive family and her biological family, including brothers and sisters she might never have known she had.
Poet has done all a mother could for her child, and nothing to justify your hateful, gloating words. |
