I feel like I'm barging into something that is none of my business -- yet it is here, hanging out it public. I just HAVE to comment on this, especially the bolded part:
I wonder about your sister in law. Has she had a really wonderful life? I've known a number of people who've had (early) abortions, and not one of them has ever had any regret, or more than brief, transient depression. Life has offered so many other things for them to deal with, as is its wont--tragedies, disappointments-- that this emotion you describe by a woman who has other children is unknown in my experience.
What on earth leads you to conclude that these people you refer to would share their true, intimate, painful emotions with YOU? Even if they were your closest relative, why would they necessarily bare their innermost souls to YOUR examination? I am only imagining here, but I would think having an abortion would be about the most personal experience a woman could ever have and would get as deep into her soul as it is possible to get -- that it would forever be a part of one's id in terms of soul-searching as to guilt, regret, life-choices, what-might-of-beens, and similar heartwrenching emotions and feelings.
I can easily imagine another woman giving you a pat answer if you asked her, but I just can't believe that "these people" would just invite you to have a look through the window on their souls so casually or readily.
You needn't remind me that I am just a guy. |
