I guess you accept my arguments distinguishing bestiality et al from homosexualtiy. You have nothing to add on the subject of bestiality and marriage?
People who believe that sexual orientation is a "matter of preference" are much less tolerant than people who follow the science, and have come to the conclusion that there is a large genetic component.
Check out the PEW study on beliefs about homosexuality for that bit of news. And check out the twin studies on homosexuality, and the studies on family clusters, as well as the new brain studies, for research that is moving closer and closer to definitively proving the genetic component. While traditions can be lovely, traditions designed to exclude people, and make a whole class of people feel like second class citizens doesn't really appeal to me- and that's the kind of tradition I think we can do without. But of course, tastes will differ on that.
As for love- if you don't love your spouse, I'd say you have a problem. I'm not talking about lust- which heterosexual and homoseuxal people (ALL people) tend to confuse with love, I'm talking about love- and for a marriage to work, in times when marriage is freely entered and exited, I'd say you need real love to make a marriage work. Those first feelings you get in a relationship, are, imo- lust- and your feeling that you might get some action- and that's not what I'm talking about. Most people today can have all the action they want without marriage- and what marriage means to people now (rather than traditionally, when it was all about property, and procreation) is the joining of two people who want to love and support each other. Because so many children are being raised in single parent homes, we can't really say marriage is for child rearing anymore. It isn't. As an institution it has already changed- and hanging on to the discriminatory part of the institution, so that you can pretend marriage still is, what it never was, but people imagine it was, doesn't really seem logical to me.
Your point about gays having the rights to marry is just silly. Try this experiment- imagine a world where the majority is gay, and they say to you, well Mr. D you can't marry a WOMAN, that's just not one of our traditions, but you are free to marry a man- see you are as free as we are. Nope. It doesn't work for me. If I were "free" to marry a woman, I really wouldn't be free- because my interests don't run that way, and being married to someone I could never have a full relationship with would be a prison for me. But I can understand why you would say that since you believe it is all a choice. Science and time will prove you wrong, imo, but in the interim people with opinions like yours will make the world a much less pleasant place for people who are not like you, and who are doing you no harm. |
