So what you have for women is just a "preference". And if society demanded it of you, you could marry and find happiness with a man, or it would be fine for society to make you live as a non-sexual person, for your whole life, if you couldn't bring yourself to marry a man. That's pretty much what you are saying in your post.
That's way too cruel, imo. If it were me, I'd let you marry a woman if you wanted to.
I think homosexuality, like heterosexuality is a continuum- but I think some people have exclusively homo, or heterosexual fantasies, and I do not think those people can be truly happy with a partner who does not allign with their fantasies. I think homosexuals COULD be forced to live celibately by society (or even worse, forced to marry women), but I think that would be a cruel and horrible thing to do in the service of bigotry. I think bigots have every right to be bigots- but I don't like it when they try to use the state to implement bigotry in to law - and use the law to make some category of relationship exclusive(I don't like it when bigots gang up to be cruel either, and of course violence against hated groups I also have a problem with). If the choice is between allowing homosexuals to marry, and allowing bigots their comfort zone, I'm going to side with the homosexuals- because I see the disposition to homosexuality to be genetic, I don't think making people celibate who aren't hurting others is a kind way to be, and I don't think bigotry is a good thing(although I am bigoted against intolerance- I'll give you that. I don't have a lot of patience for it, and I know that, and I probably won't ever change. But I wouldn't make any laws forbidding bigots from marrying, or anything like that- I just don't want THEM making laws based on bigotry either.) |
