Based on my personal experiences and anecdotal evidence, I, too, tend to agree with the author.
North American women (Canadian women included), especially those of the
"white" variety have changed quite a lot since the early 1960s. During that
time, they were generally liberal and quite accommodating and, in a relationship, the man was generally regarded as "Boss" and the woman was happy with
being "Little Me" or sort of.
Even then, there were not a few American men who went to Japan and elsewhere to look for wives.
When American wife-seekers were asked why they had decided to opt for Japanese
wwomen, their typical replies included, among other things, statements like,
"They know their place; they are not argumentative; they don't tend to be domineering;
they do their domestic chores willingly and gladly; they are not demanding; and most
important of all, they have been brought up to obey, honour and please their men
and they are faithful."
One of the American men said, "My Japanese girlfriend is the very antithesis of my ex
who was so very extravagant and greedy and wasteful, and domineering, too! I will
be marrying her next month. Because she is the only child in her family, I will have to
assume her father's name in accordance with Japanese custom. Well, I don't mind at all as
I love her very much. I guess she will call me, Daddy. Ha! Ha!"
I have heard similar sentiments from other men who went to Korea, Taiwan, Malaysia and
Indonesia and the Philippines.
But are the men right? Well, it seems most of the unions worked nicely. In a few instances,
however, especially where the women have become Americanized in thought and speech,
she gave her husband a tough time and, all too often, the marriage ended in divorce.
I would like to write more. But it's late now (11.33 pm PST) and I just want to hit the sack right now.
L8r. |
