To: ionesco who wrote (20919) 3/7/2005 7:09:36 PM
From: Poet of 20936
I'm curious--
has it entered your mind that your behavior during the months I was being stalked (on this site and others) by someone who lied about my communications with him as well as made legal threats to the SI administrators in the service of continuing to post to me....
has it entered your mind that your derision of my distress
your stating that I was psychologically fragile because of that distress
and your championing of that poster's right to post to me
well, has it entered your mind
that your behavior
was hurtful to me?
has it entered your mind that
now that you've changed your opinion about stalking on SI
that you might owe me an apology?
Because it's entered my mind.
And still, X, i feel the same way I did four years ago--
that if a poster is feeling distress because of the obnoxious attentions of others
and asks those others to stop
then that poster's wishes should be respected.
It's only right.
Even in your case.
..........
I'll have to answer you here- since Laz banned me.
Let's see-
I think asking people to stop has zero effect and there is nothing you can do about it- I have not changed my mind about that. I have not changed my mind about the tactics you and your group used- they were wrong then, and they are still wrong (imo). Nasty groups are (imo) worse and more dangerous than nasty individuals. I think if I were in danger of a breakdown I would quit posting- and I have no expectation that anyone will do what I ask when I ask them not to post to me, in fact I expect them NOT to pay any attention- which proves my point, that for the most part there is absolutely nothing one can do, and one needs to accept that or leave SI. If SI was too distressing I would leave- that is the only thing that is really in my control.
I did not say (as in "make up") that you were fragile- You and E said you were fragile, and I repeated what you said. I have no idea if you are or not. If someone IS fragile they have no right to expect to be taken care of on SI- I think we can all see that there is very little SI is willing to do. You can HOPE people will take care of you, but to expect it is illogical, and obviously irrational.
The ONLY change I have made in my opinion is that IF someone asked me today not to post to them, I would not post to them- that is about MY behavior, it is not about controlling someone else's behavior- that was always my point, and you never understood it, and you still do not understand it.
I owe you no apologies. |
