<Marriage has needed no help in managing its own long slow suicide, thank you.>
Nadine, yes it has. When the state decided it was a better father than a lot of fathers, the stage was set for women to marry the state, ditching their useless husband for something better.
Hordes of women and children in NZ are now married to the state, which makes no demands of them. Doesn't get angry. Doesn't want sex, with or without a headache. Always pays the money on time. Even hassles the previous incumbent, threatens him and generally makes his life miserable, taxation being a lot of fun. Demanding he attend the "new father's" court where he is berated and stripped financially. How about that for an indignity. This bloke takes your wife then puts you in his courtroom and lectures and robs you.
Women traditionally seek a good supporter, protector and funder. The state isn't all good, but a lot better than marriage after it has gone stale, or even before. Plenty of women get the bit on the side AND the state provider, who like a good but dull husband provides the essentials while she goes out and has fun, but doesn't even have to go out as she can have a live-in bloke while Husband-state funds the whole menagerie.
Unfortunately women on their own don't seem to be good raisers of children and the state seems to be a less than adequate father, who does more than provide funds though women denigrate his role [women's lib and women-can-do-anything-even-be-a-father arrogance].
You can see the result by counting the prison numbers [offspring of state-fathered families attend welfare and prison in prodigious proportions] and child abuse hospital numbers. Not to mention failed education and many other measures of life's miseries.
Governments are not good at anything, so it's not surprising they are useless as fathers.
Until governments decided they wanted to cuckold regular husbands, things were going along well enough, with women doing a better job of their most important role of selecting some wheat from the chaff among males on offer. Then making it work. For the most part.
Now, they aren't so particular [not that they always were] and realize it's not a lifelong risk they are carrying, so they can test drive, ditch, get funding, pick up another, lather, rinse, lather ... In the past, marriage was a big deal and had lifelong consequences and whole families got into the act, with barriers to entry "Can I have the hand of your daughter in marriage?" Shotguns at the ready.
Now it's a quick nookie in Nevada and the deal is done. To be undone in 24 hours if necessary. With the taxpayer picking up the tab.
People wonder why a lot of young men are gunshy. "Where are the men?" is the plaintive cry. Males might not do as well as girls at school [who have brains which grow to adult size three years younger than boys so that one is easily explained too] but they aren't totally stupid. They can see that the State is a much bigger and tougher bloke than they are and they have seen what happens to guys who think that they can be men. The state and women work them over pretty good.
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