Amazing.
Well, where to start? I'd have to be an idiot not to have considered counseling many many MANY years ago, if I'd had problems on the level of the ones you suggest. Obviously, you could think I'm an idiot, and have never considered this. If you do, I'd suggest that's another mistake on your part (and of course, one that bears on the personal)- although I'm sure you could find some people to giggle with you about that. That's certainly a possibility. But the larger point here, is that you would make assumption after assumption that are just so wrong- and then ignore other data, and just plug away- and justify your plugging away at my personal life. So you remember about my mom, but you missed the information about the fact that I was adopted at a very late age- and for whatever reasons, genetic, or earlier bonding with foster parents, my parents had very little affect on my personality. I'm almost a clone of my birth mother in terms of interests and personality- though I'm much more outgoing than she is. None of this is your business, of course, which you probably won't ever realize, but now that you've insinuated my poor father and my mom warped me, and implied I am some mentally ill abuser, I felt like commenting- gee, I wonder why?- and to bring counseling up when you were clearly piqued about being wrong about my dad just makes it all the more...unsavory.
In terms of parenting I worry about the folks who explode here on the net. I figure they are wound too tight- but it would be rude to tell them that, and it could be completely off the mark. It's none of my business to go around guessing who needs counseling, and when I did do it (years ago), I did it just to bug people, although cloaked in sanctimonious terms- rather the spitting image of yours- and of course, it did annoy people. So yeah, I know exactly where you are coming from.
So, why don't you consider that, before you go out and offend more people. Or don't, and continue. Honestly, at this point, after watching you dig in deeper and deeper, I'm done.
Clearly I put you (and several others) on the defensive with the ignore mention- my mistake. That was personal. I don't want to be personal, not even with you, not even about something that's right out there for everyone to see and that no one has to make wild guesses about. Good luck to you in the future, and I hope we don't speak again. |
