You didn't ask for advice, but be sure your papers say you both can have a neutral place for picking and dropping off your son. She shouldn't be allowed to come into your house. In fact, have your locks changed. Our son had to do that, because she came in and had screaming fits in front of the kids, or loud enough that they could hear (and so could the neighbors...) Plus, he couldn't take the risk that she would charge anything she could (like falsely say he hit her, or any of that baloney)...That was one of the good things his first attorney made him do....
It would be nice to believe that people can just deal with their lives, and not involve the children...just get on with their lives in a positive way.
One of our Grandkids have wanted to know more about what happened in court....(and of course, there is NO way I'd tell them, even if I knew---it would just emotionally damage them when they aren't able to cope with it)....and I didn't want to lie....SO I said...."tell you what, when you're 18, I'll go to the courthouse with you if you want, and you are old enough then to get the papers for yourself"....
That has been all I needed to say to them....There is NO way I will say anything bad about their mother....even if I think it is nuts that she does some of the things she does.
We just try to be ourselves when we are with them....and I think they appreciate it.... |
