Many African cultures also take a very liberated view of sex. A family friend of ours worked in Africa (Gambia, I think) as a civil engineer for a few years. He told us about how in his first year, one night he went home with a colleague (another engineer, I presume) and by the time they had dinner, it was too dark to drive back in the rural roads to his home. So his colleague offered him his hospitality, which he took. After, dinner, desert, drinks, chats and laughs, eventually he retired to his room. Soon after his friend's wife showed up, wearing a light perfume and a suggestive dress. When he refused her advances, she got very upset and left. A couple of minutes later the man showed up. Apologetically, he said that of course I understand that you are younger than I and deserve a younger woman, but my wife is not that old. Still, you are our guest and I should make you happy. If you prefer, my daughter is also available.
Our friend was shocked, but made sure they understood that he meant no offense and that the reason for his refusal was his religion. |
