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thanks
FWIW (not that it is really anyone's business what I do, or how I live, and not sure why it interests some people so much), I did work as an attorney until I had babies, and I went to a cheap state school for undergrad because I was working my way through- paying half the rent for our tiny apartment, while my husband paid his half with the GI Bill. I also chose my undergrad college because my father worked there. I knew it pleased my father that I went to "his" college. I have posted about the school and working, so am not sure where this other information came from, but not from me, obviously. I suppose it's easier to write fiction than look up the facts- we see that a lot on SI, and elsewhere, unfortunately.
I was much happier being a teacher than an attorney though (especially since I could do so much more for my own children with the hours I worked), and I felt like I was making a huge contribution. I loved being able to help my students learn- especially the ones with disabilities, or problematic attitudes toward school. There is nothing like changing a young person's life for the better.
I don't understand why anyone would criticize a mother for staying home with her children (if indeed I had not worked), no matter what her educational attainment, nor why someone would obviously have so much anger about someone else's family life choices. It's odd. I confess I do not understand it, nor do I want to. I think the best thing mothers can do, assuming they want to BE mothers (and if they don't, why have kids?) is to stay home and raise their children. My children, and especially my disabled son, would not be as advanced as they are had I not spent a lot of my life helping them be who they are. They are my finest achievement, and the love of my life, and the labor I am most proud of. I love them more than I ever knew I could love anyone. I remember when my daughter was born- I couldn't believe the feelings of love and the awe of creation I felt at that moment. As an adopted person, I had never felt what it meant to touch someone who was blood of your blood. It is the rawest most elemental biological connection, and I am so glad to have had it. I could not imagine handing my baby daughter over to anyone else, and I'm glad I did not, and so happy my husband felt exactly the same way I did. |
