Hitting children simply teaches them that violence is the way to solve problems, and that more powerful people use it as a means to control weaker people. How anyone could bear and nurture a child and then slap it around, or even deliberately cause it pain, is unfathomable to me. If you do research on this yourself, you will probably discover, as I did, that children who are spanked have more behavior problems, not less. It makes children distrustful and rebellious.
Gangs, young children pregnant, and spoiled children are the result of complex pathologies in our society. I would suspect that if you studied gang members who have come into contact with the juvenile court, the incidence of them being spanked by their parents is very high, not very low. And children are spoiled by lack of appropriate attention, and constructive discipline and firm standards of behavior. They need to know that there are natural consequences of their misbehavior, like losing privileges. Then they will act RATIONALLY, and develop well as the result.
Children do not grow up healthy living in fear of physical punishment. It is almost a recipe for neurotic, damaged individuals. Are you saying that hitting children is also part of your rationalist belief system??
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