It's a little late to bury those bulbs in a cage, MSB, and if you are implying I have interestingly hairy and masculine cavemen invading my backyard, I wish!!! < : )
How long before both parties making up a couple accept each other and stop trying to change one another? I have no idea!! I see this behavior in really old people!! My own experience of relationships is that there is one direction or another going on, very subtly, all the time. If things are going positively, one positive comment or loving act reinforces the other partner to act in the same way. If things are negative, they can be reversed. If your relationship is in the doldrums, or worse, I would advise trying to turn it around by doing something sweet and unexpected to change the direction. It is sort of like energy--good or bad energy--we all have the power to change that energy around us. I believe ONE PERSON in the relationship can radically transform it by positive behavior and reinforcement. If you love your wife and you are happy and she knows it, when you bring her flowers or something silly, she continues to be happy, and has a larger reservoir of happiness. But if she is sad and feels unloved, that simple act can be the beginning of a total turn-around. Then she will act more loving towards you, and you will feel more loving towards her, etc. forever. At least this is what I have found works in my own relationship, where miracles needed to occur at one point to make it happier and stronger. This amazing use of energy is that miracle beginning.
The fact that S.J. is feeling that you love her less and expressing it is very important. At least she is communicating with you. There are far worse stages when most of the talking about feelings has stopped, and both people are shut down.
Sunday night? I hope you didn't hold your breath waiting for me!!! I have a real love-hate relationship with my computer, because of the time it sucks up, and am not here consistently at all. Sometimes I am tired, and sometimes just spending time with my family. Right now I have a million things to do, and have to go start on them. I really envy people who can hang out all day and do this. It must be wonderful fun. Perhaps if I were a less consistent chooser of total losers in my portfolio, I would have leisure time also!!! |
