According to Adler, when we feel encouraged, we feel capable and appreciated and
will generally act in a connected and cooperative way. When we are discouraged,
we may act in unhealthy ways by competing, withdrawing, or giving up. It is in
finding ways of expressing and accepting encouragement, respect, and social
interest that help us feel fulfilled and optimistic.

Adlerian theory and practice have proven especially productive as applied to
the growth and development of children. Adlerians believe that "a misbehaving
child is a discouraged child" and that helping children to feel valued,
significant, and competent is often the most effective strategy in coping with
difficult child behaviors.
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