you are correct, but ...
hard hobbies may enable character-building
actually we simply encourage her to do something, anything she likes, and try to do well by learning
rest is up to her
she has tried violin, piano, flute, skating, gymnastics, calligraphy, painting, ballet, and i forgot what else.
perhaps off topic ...
when she was little (3.5-4) i tried to watch a national geography documentary about two families, one a polar bear mom w/ two cubs, and the other, a seal mama and baby seal, and its aunt. she liked animals but as the program started she started crying, not wanting to watch the program. she put up such a fuss that i had to stop the program, puzzled.
i watched the program afterwards on own and it turned out that the plot was dire,
mama polar bear and one cub made the migration successfully and the weaker one perished.
mama seal died by shark bite, and baby seal was raised by aunt seal.
erita had an intuition that something bad was going to happen after the opening scenes of idyllic summer in the arctic.
she knows dada and mama would not always be around, and so she learns. we did not teach her such be the way, and certainly did not put such thought to her. go figure.
i told the coconut that irrespective of whatever may happen, we would be with her always.
i remember the coconut polishing her little thomas train toys as welcome gift for jack before jack was born. the kids are great. |
